Ep 53: Widowhood is a Tumble of Emotions

February 3, 2017

WE know all too well that our emotions are all over the place and cannot be “neatly” categorized.  I’ve talked about how all these emotions can actually “muddy up” your feeling of grief.  We think that all those emotions are grief – but no. So then, how do you process all those emotions?  You can find Widowed on Amazon at http://joannfilomena.com  Email Joann:  Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com   This podcast is brought to you by Joann The Life Coach Podcast Productions.

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Ep 52: Widows - Don’t Check Out on Your Life

January 26, 2017

Don't be afraid to look at your life as it is right now - that is the starting point for deciding what new beliefs you might want to have about yourself and about your life.  When we hide from ourself by staying in a stuck place, it is a form of checking out on your life.  Widows and widowers even have a high rate of suicidal thoughts - the ultimate checking out on life.  Today I share how powerful it is to muster the courage to look at exactly where you are and what you need.  This podcast is brought to you by Joann The Life Coach Podcast Productions that also includes Weight Coach podcast and This is US podcast.  Joann Filomena is widowed, a profesional certified life coach and author of the bestselling book, Widowed.  Email:  Joann@JoannTheLIfeCoach.com   

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Ep 51: Your Step-Children and In-Laws After Becoming Widowed

January 14, 2017

Did you marry when you were older and maybe he had grown kids from a prevrious marriage?  Or is it just your in laws that you now feel a little "estranged" from?  So often we think of those step-kids and grandkids as "his kids" and "his family" instead of our own family.  So we lose touch and lose any possible support from them.  It is our thinking that has gotten in our way of continuing those relationships - and just at a time when we need that bond more than ever.  Today's podcast talks about this and about how to reach out again.  Email me at joann@joannthelife.coach.com with feedback or if you want to find out more about the Widow Coaches Class.  You can find WIDOWED on Amazon at http://bit.ly/Widowed 

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Ep 50: Don’t be Held Back by Widow Guilt

January 7, 2017

Do you feel guilt that you didn’t do enough for your spouse?  Guilt perhaps for a medical decision you made for them.  Guilt for backing THEIR decision.  Guilt for not immediately thinking of them when you wake in the morning.  Guilt for feeling the first twinge of happiness or pleasure after they’ve pasted. The guilt that assails us when we think something like, “well at least I don't have to do wash twice a week anymore” or “How nice that the kitchen stays clean.”  Guilt over selling their car, releasing their things, changing decor - as if they will still walk through the door any minute.  This is more common than you think - and one of the most painful emotions widows struggle with.  Check out this week's episode including a lot of updates!  email:  Joann@joannthelifecoach.com   Download my book for free:  http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/  

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Ep 49: End of The Second Year as a Widow

December 31, 2016

If you are a new widow, this episode might not be something you are ready to hear yet.  If you listen, do keep your mind open to this possibility in your future.  For those of you who, like me, have been widowed more than a year; this might resonate.  December 29th marked the end of two years as a widow for me, and as this date approached, there was a shift in my heart.  I want to share this with you.  The stories I share here might sound like little things, but listen on.  They run much deeper.  There is finally acceptance.  Reach out to me for a free phone call at http://talktojoann.com   Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com  My book "WIDOWED" is available on Amazon.com.  

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Ep 48: Holidays as a Widow

December 16, 2016

We are at that time of year that can be so very painful to experience after your spouse has died:  Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah - Kwanzaa - your holidays celebrations.  But being alone doesn’t have to equal lonely.  Some tips for your holiday, as well as permission to spend it exactly as you wish.  Email:  Joann@joannthelifecoach.com  Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/

 

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Ep 47: Widow Weight Gain

December 9, 2016

Widow weight gain - a return to emotional eating.  Emotions and feelings? This is the basis for issues with overeating.  As a widow, especially if you've already struggled with weight issues, you may find that the scale has headed upwards again.  No only am I a widow and professional life coach, I'm a certified professional weight loss coach.  Find out more!  You can email Joann at joann@joannthelifecoach.com   Want to jump on the phone with me?  Go schedule a time we can talk at http://talktojoann.com 

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Ep 46: Know Your Numbers

December 2, 2016

 Just the thought of being widowed equals “destitute widow” in our mind.  In times of yore, the word widowed and destitute were almost synonymous. Falling prey to financial drama will indeed hold you back.  Find the mindset to turn financial fears around!  Read WIDOWED http://bit.ly/Widowed   Get on a call with me:  http://talktojoann.com   Website:  http://joannthelifecoach.com  

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Ep 45: Thanksgiving and Giving Gratitude

November 24, 2016

Happy Thanksgiving from Joann of Widow Cast and the book, WIDOWED.  This special episode is recorded live about 3,500 miles away from my broadcasting studio - coming to you unedited.  For Thanksgiving, I wanted to reach out to all of my listeners to share a story of how finding gratitude not only for what you have had and what you have right now in this present, but also for where you need to be can support and help create that future for you.  It is my wish that you find a lot to feel thankful for today and that you find JOY in your day today.  Reach out in email to Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com  

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Ep 44: Do Not Constantly Push Down the Pain

November 20, 2016

Are you ignoring the pain of loss, pushing it down, telling yourself “I’m okay, I got this?”  This is a definite trend in the sisterhood.  We think we can just tie on our red cape and push forward.  But all that bottled up emotional pain is going to push right back in ways you cannot even imagine.  Continuing on even in the best of circumstances is not necessarily the same as thriving on life. Start by learning the difference in how you look at what you are feeling.  Reach out in email to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com   Jump on a call with me:  http://talktojoann.com  Website:  http://joannthelifecoach.com  

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Ep 43: Death after Divorce

November 12, 2016

We’ve talked about not comparing divorce to becoming widowed as these are two very different circumstances - not the same thing at all.  But what happens when after divorce, your ex passes away?  Is it rehashing the old feelings?  Why are you so devastated all over again upon their death? Join me as I break down this phenomenon.  Email feedback:  Joann@joannthelifecoach.com  Website: http://Joannthelifecoach.com  Jump on a call with me:  http://talktojoann.com  

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Ep 42: Don’t Miss Out on Life After Becoming Widowed

November 4, 2016

Don't miss out on life.  Why does one widow stay stuck for years and lose even a decade plus of living, and another widow uses the pain and fear to push forward?  One widow is not smarter, better, more emotionally stable than the other.  One widow does not have more supportive friends, more financial income, more social contacts than another.  Both widows are deep in grief.  So what happens? Where is the click?  Find out in this episode.  Reach out at http://talktojoann.com to jump on a call to find out about life coaching specifically for widows.  Email:  Joann@joannthelifecoach.com  Website:  http://joannthelifecoach.com

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Ep 41: Watch Out for Compounding Stresses as a Widow

October 28, 2016

Not only do we experience that huge shock of stress with the loss of our spouse, there are a tremendous number of secondary losses.  Be aware that these compound and can even affect your health. Today's episode discusses a famous stress units scale and helps you assess where you are in your life currently, along with the various compounding stresses we face as widows.  You can schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com   Download the free worksheet with the Holmes Stress Scale at http://joannbooks.com  Email me:  Joann@joannthelifecoach.com

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Ep 40: Pushing Through Your Day

October 21, 2016

There were key insights and experiences in my first year as a widow that helped me strike out and rebuild a life for me.  This is why I wrote WIDOWED - to share that journey and some of what I discovered along the way that helped me.  Today I share a little taste of WIDOWED with you.  Email:  Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com  Get WIDOWED for free at http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed  Schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com  

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Ep 39: Special Announcement

October 13, 2016

Today my book, WIDOWED, is live on Amazon.com in Kindle Format and I'm offering it for FREE for the next 3 days.  Details in this brief announcement.  Event registration:  http://lifefromtheauthorcastle.com  Book web page:  http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/

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